The Purposed Trek

There is finally an answer to the question...I am departing May 22nd of 2007 for South Africa. Plane ticket is purchased, agreement is signed and there is no turning back; not that I want to. I mean, look who I will get to visit on a regular basis:

I have quit a bit to accomplish before May 22nd: obtain a visa, purchase insurance, see some family, figure out what books I will want to read over the next year and attend my cousins wedding in Nags Head. Any tips, suggestions or thoughts are welcome for this transition.

Starting now and during my time there I will be accepting donations in order to complete and fulfill my commitment as a volunteer with Impact Africa. If you are interested in donating one-time, monthly or whenever you are able to; there are multiple ways to do so and can begin now.

• Tax Deductible Check - check made out to Impact Africa with an attached not that it is for me (Do NOT write my name anywhere on the check) and mail to Marci DePersig 4737 24th Road N, Arlington, VA 22207.
• Tax Deductible Credit Card/PayPal - Visit Impact Africa and click on the "Donate Now" button on the left hand side. When donating through this site please include my name in the Memo/Note field otherwise my account will not be credited the amount.
• Not Tax Deductible - login to PayPal and send funds to this email address mdepersig@yahoo.com or mail checks made out to me to the above address.

If you have any questions regarding any donation or other ways you can contribute please contact me directly. Thank you for considering giving into this opportunity. I know it will be an amazing experience and not only will I be forever grateful, but the people of South Africa will be to.

Okay, so everyone (a lot of people) feel the need to express their excitement, in the fact that I might be going all the way to South Africa to meet my husband. When these comments are made, I laugh, and smile and say "who knows". I mean, who really knows but God. I am not throwing it out as an option, but I am also not making it a priority. I did not sell everything I own, quit my job and move clear across the waters in hopes of finding a husband. I believe my heart goes deeper than that and the destiny of others, including myself, is far more important than getting married.

Now I say all that to say, I am over it. I am over the fact that life starts when you are married. Yes, I am slightly tainted; as we all are, but I still believe that marriage is a wonderful union established by and for God. So when I say "I am over it" I mean I have accepted life where I am at, I am happy, I look forward to what lies ahead as a single person, flying solo. It is very "Christian" to continually pursue a spouse, thinking that life begins when you find your spouse. Yes, there is power and amazing things that take place with a life partner, but in the mean time life doesn't suck and God doesn't look at me like I am less than because I am flying solo. Yes, I do look forward to the day I meet the man I am to be with and share my life with, but in the mean time I am going to fly, albeit solo.

"I would rather be an old maid, than a miserable wife." That is my line and I am sticking to it. I ain't desperate for a man.

I am going to reflect on the pros of being single and loving it:

• Go wherever you want
• Go whenever you want
• Hang out with whoever you want (did I mention whenever you want)
• Go to bed when you feel like it
• Wake up when you feel like it (less the daily job)
• Watch/Go to whatever movie you want
• Move to South Africa whenever you want
• Live in England for 2 months whenever you want
• Take up the entire bed and blankets whenever you want

Now there are many others I missed (feel free to comment on the pros for your life), and one important point to make is that I can still do all these things when I am married, however the phrase "you want" and "feel like it" needs to disappear or else it will be a miserable marriage.

This is what happens when I have too much down time on a daily basis.

I am very thankful for my job, however it is incredibly boring and leaves me with countless hours of waiting in between searches to do nothing. Since reading a book might appear to be a little slackeresque, I am looking for any good sites to visit that will keep me occupied through an 8 hour day. I have gotten really good at keeping up with peoples lives on their blogs, but that only occupies very little of my time. Any suggestions???? And Happy Valentines Day!