Flying Solo...Sort Of
Okay, so everyone (a lot of people) feel the need to express their excitement, in the fact that I might be going all the way to South Africa to meet my husband. When these comments are made, I laugh, and smile and say "who knows". I mean, who really knows but God. I am not throwing it out as an option, but I am also not making it a priority. I did not sell everything I own, quit my job and move clear across the waters in hopes of finding a husband. I believe my heart goes deeper than that and the destiny of others, including myself, is far more important than getting married.
Now I say all that to say, I am over it. I am over the fact that life starts when you are married. Yes, I am slightly tainted; as we all are, but I still believe that marriage is a wonderful union established by and for God. So when I say "I am over it" I mean I have accepted life where I am at, I am happy, I look forward to what lies ahead as a single person, flying solo. It is very "Christian" to continually pursue a spouse, thinking that life begins when you find your spouse. Yes, there is power and amazing things that take place with a life partner, but in the mean time life doesn't suck and God doesn't look at me like I am less than because I am flying solo. Yes, I do look forward to the day I meet the man I am to be with and share my life with, but in the mean time I am going to fly, albeit solo.
"I would rather be an old maid, than a miserable wife." That is my line and I am sticking to it. I ain't desperate for a man.
I am going to reflect on the pros of being single and loving it:
- Go wherever you want
- Go whenever you want
- Hang out with whoever you want (did I mention whenever you want)
- Go to bed when you feel like it
- Wake up when you feel like it (less the daily job)
- Watch/Go to whatever movie you want
- Move to South Africa whenever you want
- Live in England for 2 months whenever you want
- Take up the entire bed and blankets whenever you want
Now there are many others I missed (feel free to comment on the pros for your life), and one important point to make is that I can still do all these things when I am married, however the phrase "you want" and "feel like it" needs to disappear or else it will be a miserable marriage.
This is what happens when I have too much down time on a daily basis.
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Marci-
I AGREE and very well put by the way. Hey, I did get your email and I am sorry I haven't replied. The main reason for my slow to no reply is the fact that I didn't know many if any of the answers. I am here on a visitors visa right now because I head back in a month to raise support. I think it sounds like we will be coming back to SA about the same time. Fun times!
I look forward to seeing you when I am in Joburg some time!
Hey Marci!!
You've got to read my friend Nicole's blog... http://nicole-keepitreal.blogspot.com... She's got great insite on enjoying your single life... I'm so encouraged everytime I read it.. Anyways, let's hang out soon.. love you!
Marci- I just ran across your page while browsing some of the TM blogs I visit from time to time. It's good to run into you (albeit electronically). Sounds like you're doing well :).
January
Jan - how can I get in touch with you? So good to hear from you...I see your last name changed :) Congrats!
Han - thanks, I will check it out.
Charlene - no worries, just thought I would ask. Keep in touch!
My email address is january.soell@gmail.com and I have a blog currently located at www.xanga.com/curly.
Hey Marci, I know this comment is late. As usual, I'm catching up on your blog months late! Way to go girl! I love your post. And I have one more item to add to your list about the great parts of being single: you don't have to clean out someone elses massive amounts of hair left in the shower! (when you marry a wonderful, albeit large and hairy man). hhaa haa.
I'm glad you've publicly stated your stance on singleness. It's all in God's timing if you are obedient to do it His way . . . so what's the rush, ya know? If you've submitted yourself and any future relationships to God, it's in His hands, not yours anyway. And who better to be in control and know who or what is best for you!
Love you and we'll miss you when you go to SA, but are very excited for you!
God Bless,
Courtenay
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